Various Artists - Wesleyan 2013 Commencement Speech lyrics

“Two roads diverged in a wood and…” No! I'm not that lazy. I sat through many graduations. When I was sitting where you guys [Wesleyan cla** of 2013] are sitting the speaker was Bill Cosby. He was very funny and he was very brief and I thank him for that. He gave us a message that I really took with me, and that a lot of us never forgot, about changing the world. He said, “You're not gonna change the world, so don't try.” That was it! He didn't buy that back at all. And then he complained about buying his daughter a car and then we left. And I remember thinking…you know I think I can do better. I think I can be a little more inspiring than that. So, what I'd like to say to all of you is that you are all going to die. This is a good commencement speech! Because I'm figuring…it's got to go up from here, right? It can only get better. This is good. It can't get more depressing. You have, in fact, already begun to die. You look great. Don't get me wrong. And you are youth and beauty, you are at your physical peak. Your bodies have just gotten off the ski slope at the peak of growth and potential! And now comes the black diamond mogul run to the grave. And the weird thing is… your body wants to die. On a cellular level that's what it wants. And that's—probably?—not what you want. I'm confronted by a great deal of grand and worthy ambition from this student body. You want to be politicians, social workers, you want to be artists. Your body's ambition? Mulch. Your body wants to make some babies and then go in the ground and fertilize things. That's it! And that seems like a bit of a contradiction. That doesn't seem fair. For one thing, we're telling you to go out into the world exactly when your body is saying, “Hey, let's bring it down a notch.” And it is a contradiction, which is actually what I'd like to talk to you about: the contradictions between your body and your mind, your mind and itself. I believe these contradictions and these tensions are the greatest gift we have and hopefully I can explain that. But first let me say that when I talk about contradiction I'm talking about something that is a constant in your life and in your identity. Not just in your body, but in your own mind in ways that you may recognize and that you may not. Let's just say that, hypothetically, two roads diverged in a wood and you took the path less traveled. Part of you is going, “Look at that path over there! It's much better! Everybody's traveling on it and it's…it's paved and there's like a Starbucks every 50 yards… This is wrong. This path's got nettles and Robert Frost's body and… somebody should have moved that, right? It feels weird.” Not only is your mind telling you this, it is on that other path. It is behaving as if it is on that path, it is doing the opposite of what you are doing. And for your entire life you will be doing, on some level, the opposite of not only what you are doing but of what you think you are. That is just going to go on. And what you need to do is to honor that. To understand it. To unearth it. To listen to this other voice. You have, which is a rare thing, the ability and the responsibility to listen to the dissent in yourself. To at least give it the floor. Because it is the key, not only to consciousness, but to real growth. To accept duality is to earn identity, and identity is something that you are constantly earning. It is not just “who you are,” it is a process that you must be active in. And it's not parroting your parents or even the thoughts of your learned teachers, it is, now more than ever, about understanding yourself so you can become yourself. I talk about this contradiction and this tension… There's two things I want to say about it. One, it never goes away. And if you think that achieving something, if you think that solving something, if you think a career or a relationship will quiet that voice? It will not. If you think happiness means total peace, you will never be happy. Peace comes from the acceptance of the part of you that can never be at peace. They will always be in conflict and if you accept that, everything gets a lot better! The other reason is that because you are establishing your identities and beliefs you need to argue yourself down, because somebody else will. Somebody's going to come at you. Whatever your belief, your idea, your ambition…somebody's going to question it. And unless you have first you won't be able to answer back. You won't be able to hold your ground. You don't believe me? Try taking a stand on just one leg. You need to see both sides. Now, if you do, does this mean you get to change the world? All I can say, at this point, is that I think we can all agree that the world could use a little changing. I don't know if your parents have explained this to you about the world but we…broke it? Ummmm, we're sorry? It's a bit of a mess. It's a hard time to go out into it. And it's a weird time in our country. And the thing about our country is…oh, it's nice. I like it! But it's not long on contradiction or ambiguity. It's not long on these kind of things. It likes things to be simple. It likes things to be pigeonholed. Good, or bad. Black, or white. Blue, or red. And we're not that. We're more interesting than that. The way that we go into the world understanding is to have these contradictions in ourselves and to see them in other people and not judge them for it. To know that—in a world where debate has kind of fallen away and given away to shouting and bullying—the best thing is not just the idea of honest debate, the best thing is losing a debate. Because it means you've learned something and you've changed your position. The only way, really, to understand your position and its worth is to understand the opposite. That doesn't mean the crazy guy on the radio who's spewing hate, it means the decent human truths of all the people who feel the need to listen to that guy. You are connected to those people. They're connected to him. You can't get away from it. This connection is part of contradiction. It is the tension I was talking about. Because tension isn't about two opposite points, it's about the line being stretched in between them. And we need to acknowledge and honor that tension and the connection that that tension is a part of. Our connection, not just to the people we love, but to everybody, including people we can't stand and wish weren't around. The connection we have is part of what defines us on such a basic level. Freedom is not freedom from connection. Serial k**ing is freedom from connection. Certain large investment firms have established freedom from connection…. But we as people never do, and we're not supposed to. We are individuals, obviously, but we are more than that. So here's the thing about changing the world. It turns out that's not even the question, because you don't have a choice. You are going to change the world because that is actually what the world is. You do not pa** through this life, it pa**es through you. You experience it, you interpret it, you act, and then it is different. That happens constantly. You are changing the world. You always have been. And now it becomes real on a level that it hasn't been before. And that's why I've been talking only about you and the tension within you. Because you are, not in a cliched sense but in a weirdly literal sense, the future. And after you [the graduating cla**] walk up here and walk back down you are going to be the present. You will be the broken world and the act of changing it in a way that you haven't been before. You will be so many things and the one thing that I wish I'd known, and want to say, is: don't just be yourself, be all of your selves. Don't just live, be that other thing connected to d**h. Be life. Live all of your life. Understand it, see it, appreciate it, and have fun.