i. it's the only time of the year all my mom's people could get off work. ii. it's a production. a. my grandma's spread took days to lay out: swedish meat balls in a hot and sweet brown sauce. brisket in au jus (of course). mustard dip. farfalle primavera. caramels, cookies and plenty of vodka. iii. the main event was held just off the dining room iv. the adults gathered for highballs and martinis (even though my grandfather, a liquor salesman, never drank.) v. this was the night he worked all year for. vi. a room of family and a wall of presents, that cost money he made. vii. proof he provided for his children and grandchildren. viii. things you could touch and say my papa gave me this, this thing. ix. this is the night, he felt most american x. most fully free.